That I 'actively' Listen and Ask powerful questions.
I am told that they value the
- Way their agenda is attended, and NOT what I THINK they should do, be, or think
- Way their concerns, goals, values and beliefs about what is and is not possible is heard,
- Way they are encouraged to accept, explore and reinforce their truth, their expression of feelings, perceptions, concerns, beliefs...
- Way I integrate and build on their ideas and suggestions,
- Way I help them to get there rather than engaging in long descriptive stories,
- Way they are urged to vent their situation and "clear" the air of deep seated emotion.
I am told that they value
- How the question I ask reflects how I actively listen and understand their perspective,
- How my questions evoke unexpected discovery, insight, commitment or action
- How my questions create greater clarity, possibility or new learning
- How my questions moved them towards what they truly desire, not just tell them what they already know or what they want to hear
