Living is really pretty simple. Living happens right now; it doesn’t happen back then, and it doesn’t happen out there. Living is not the story of your life. Living is the process of experiencing right now.
Thinking about right now, figuring it out, perceiving it, arguing, reading about or believing anything about right now – none of these produce any certainty about living.
When you get beyond the symbols and beliefs about now, beyond thinking about it, beyond efforting or working at it, when you get even beyond merely feeling it, when you get all the way up to observing it, being with it, and finally up to totally experiencing it, the uncertainty about living goes away, because you know the truth in the only way in which a being ever knows the truth – by direct experience.
By Direct Experience Only
I want to remind ourselves about something from an amazing man of our time, a very unique person, Werner Erhardt.
My Story
17 Years Contracting, 5 years (as a permanent employee with General Motors), plus add to that 3 years of University BA Degree (in IT), plus add to that 1 year part time certificate course (in IT) and you should get 27 years of solid background and picture of my ACTIVITY in IT up till august 2000.
So I know what the rush (from the pressure) on leading high profile high stakes projects that must meet their deadline (or else) feels like...
I know what its like to have awkward uncomfortable sensations run through my body as the contract expiry date comes due...
I know the quiet insecure uncertain anticipation you feel when your finger presses the elevator button... to the floor of your interview.... wondering how you will face the panel.. (the UNKNOWN)... this time... Will they like you.. will you crash and burn.. be way out of your depth this time? (moving eyebrows up and down rapidly with a twinkling smile).
I love the unknown that rages through my chest and body... BECAUSE it lets me know I am still alive...
HOWEVER I have since learned how much I was losing
by failing to remind colleagues, project leaders, project managers, of my value... of failing to gather around me a power network of influence... of failing to move quicker on my resume of the future... of failing to learn to market myself properly personally... and more.
ALL the things my UNIVERSITY degree did NOT cover that TURNS OUT what it SHOULD have covered MOST... to make my way stronger.. to get me there faster and to lift me higher than I reached.
So I know what the rush (from the pressure) on leading high profile high stakes projects that must meet their deadline (or else) feels like...
I know what its like to have awkward uncomfortable sensations run through my body as the contract expiry date comes due...
I know the quiet insecure uncertain anticipation you feel when your finger presses the elevator button... to the floor of your interview.... wondering how you will face the panel.. (the UNKNOWN)... this time... Will they like you.. will you crash and burn.. be way out of your depth this time? (moving eyebrows up and down rapidly with a twinkling smile).
I love the unknown that rages through my chest and body... BECAUSE it lets me know I am still alive...
HOWEVER I have since learned how much I was losing
by failing to remind colleagues, project leaders, project managers, of my value... of failing to gather around me a power network of influence... of failing to move quicker on my resume of the future... of failing to learn to market myself properly personally... and more.
ALL the things my UNIVERSITY degree did NOT cover that TURNS OUT what it SHOULD have covered MOST... to make my way stronger.. to get me there faster and to lift me higher than I reached.
SELF HELP Facilitator and Guide
It is important to know that SELF help is about SELF help...
You will need to look up what is available in all the areas of self help around health, family, being a good parent, keep up with your skills, keep roof over head, keep money coming in, feed the brood, and have time to be you as you make your way in the world. So you will need to scan through the books on the book shelves, and read those that apply to you. You will need to attend the right seminars and customise them so they apply specifically to you.
It is a very rewarding process but unfortunately for most sucks up a lot of time, money, effort AND that's just to get the information... So many opt to save themselves a lot of time by working with a SELF HELP Facilitator and Guide like myself who has already completed over 20 years of study working with numerous self help disciplines to guide you to a selection of the most appropriate practitioners to fill your needs.
IF you love Self Help but don't want to spend too much time, energy, effort, money doing work that is fun but does not address your specific needs then consider using me as your SELF Help Facilitator Guide BECAUSE you want to enjoy the benefit and advantage of that sooner not in 20 years time.
You will need to look up what is available in all the areas of self help around health, family, being a good parent, keep up with your skills, keep roof over head, keep money coming in, feed the brood, and have time to be you as you make your way in the world. So you will need to scan through the books on the book shelves, and read those that apply to you. You will need to attend the right seminars and customise them so they apply specifically to you.
It is a very rewarding process but unfortunately for most sucks up a lot of time, money, effort AND that's just to get the information... So many opt to save themselves a lot of time by working with a SELF HELP Facilitator and Guide like myself who has already completed over 20 years of study working with numerous self help disciplines to guide you to a selection of the most appropriate practitioners to fill your needs.
IF you love Self Help but don't want to spend too much time, energy, effort, money doing work that is fun but does not address your specific needs then consider using me as your SELF Help Facilitator Guide BECAUSE you want to enjoy the benefit and advantage of that sooner not in 20 years time.
Often I am told that I am a good listener
That I 'actively' Listen and Ask powerful questions.
I am told that they value the
- Way their agenda is attended, and NOT what I THINK they should do, be, or think
- Way their concerns, goals, values and beliefs about what is and is not possible is heard,
- Way they are encouraged to accept, explore and reinforce their truth, their expression of feelings, perceptions, concerns, beliefs...
- Way I integrate and build on their ideas and suggestions,
- Way I help them to get there rather than engaging in long descriptive stories,
- Way they are urged to vent their situation and "clear" the air of deep seated emotion.
I am told that they value
- How the question I ask reflects how I actively listen and understand their perspective,
- How my questions evoke unexpected discovery, insight, commitment or action
- How my questions create greater clarity, possibility or new learning
- How my questions moved them towards what they truly desire, not just tell them what they already know or what they want to hear
Changing the WRONG problem
HAVE you EVER got excited about you vision... taken MASSIVE ACTION.. THEN discovered you spent all that time, effort, energy changing the wrong problem?
Well you can relax, feel relieved, because you are NOT alone.... AND did you know... the ODDS are ON that you WILL change the wrong problem..
The answer is OBVIOUS when you see it... BUT think of all that effort, time, conditioning and all for naught.
How many people do you believe have been sold a 'secret' lemon? How many people do you know who have visualised setting themselves free... starting a business... only to find they were worse off than ever... no time... headaches they never had when working a job... less money than they ever had... and the only thing growing is a mountain of debt...
Well these are examples of changing the wrong problem.
AND like I said once you are shown... you will see its obvious that the ODDS are massively stacked in favor of changing the wrong problem.. not once.. not twice.. but over and over.
To what extent is changing the wrong problem an issue in your personal and career development important?
Well you can relax, feel relieved, because you are NOT alone.... AND did you know... the ODDS are ON that you WILL change the wrong problem..
The answer is OBVIOUS when you see it... BUT think of all that effort, time, conditioning and all for naught.
How many people do you believe have been sold a 'secret' lemon? How many people do you know who have visualised setting themselves free... starting a business... only to find they were worse off than ever... no time... headaches they never had when working a job... less money than they ever had... and the only thing growing is a mountain of debt...
Well these are examples of changing the wrong problem.
AND like I said once you are shown... you will see its obvious that the ODDS are massively stacked in favor of changing the wrong problem.. not once.. not twice.. but over and over.
To what extent is changing the wrong problem an issue in your personal and career development important?
If You Want More Money
then start a business....
WRONG says Scott Shane a researcher in new business and an angel investor.... His research found that on average a new venture will fail within five years, and even successful founders usually earn 35% less over 10 years than they would working for others.
One thing that Scott Shane DID evidence is that "People who run their own businesses have greater job satisfaction than people who don't"... in fact he discovered that entrepreneurs would settle for anything less than 2.5 times as much before they would even consider giving that up.
I often coach employees to consider becoming entrepreneurial employees.. investing in skill... building asset... and maximising their salary in the industry they are in...
To what extent is money important?
Would you consider "Entrepreneurial Employeeship" OR would you settle for 35% less?
WRONG says Scott Shane a researcher in new business and an angel investor.... His research found that on average a new venture will fail within five years, and even successful founders usually earn 35% less over 10 years than they would working for others.
One thing that Scott Shane DID evidence is that "People who run their own businesses have greater job satisfaction than people who don't"... in fact he discovered that entrepreneurs would settle for anything less than 2.5 times as much before they would even consider giving that up.
I often coach employees to consider becoming entrepreneurial employees.. investing in skill... building asset... and maximising their salary in the industry they are in...
To what extent is money important?
Would you consider "Entrepreneurial Employeeship" OR would you settle for 35% less?
The POWER of NOW
TIME is NOT what we think it is... DID you know that the ONLY time we HAVE is NOW?
The PAST no longer exists EXCEPT in our body. The FUTURE does NOT exist except in our IMAGINATION. The ONLY time we have is THIS second in an INFINITE NOW.
WHAT does this MEAN I hear you say.
DO I go FERRAL? Do I drop EVERYTHING and just exist moment to moment? IS that what you are saying?
NO... I AM saying that you ONLY have THIS moment to do your INVESTING, to do your RESPONDING, to do your REACTING, to do your LIVING...
UNFORTUNATELY most everyone is living, is responding to, is reacting to what amounts to an experience from the past.. an imaginary picture of the future.. in THIS MOMENT NOW... AS IF it is happening NOW.
Thats like looking at a snap of your holiday last summer... in that swank resort... that left you soaking wet... because it was a WASH OUT
AND you getting up right NOW and DRYING yourself with a towel...
THAT is STRANGE... VERY very strange
YET why do we do it?
UNFORTUNATELY most people THEN misinterpret what it MEANS to LIVE in the NOW.
They will tell you that you should throw out all your massive action plans, all your wonderful inspiring visions AND JUST EXPERIENCE the NOW... when it doesn't mean that at all.
It just means you are SIMPLY NOT to REACT as if those images of the past (and the future) are now.
The PAST no longer exists EXCEPT in our body. The FUTURE does NOT exist except in our IMAGINATION. The ONLY time we have is THIS second in an INFINITE NOW.
WHAT does this MEAN I hear you say.
DO I go FERRAL? Do I drop EVERYTHING and just exist moment to moment? IS that what you are saying?
NO... I AM saying that you ONLY have THIS moment to do your INVESTING, to do your RESPONDING, to do your REACTING, to do your LIVING...
UNFORTUNATELY most everyone is living, is responding to, is reacting to what amounts to an experience from the past.. an imaginary picture of the future.. in THIS MOMENT NOW... AS IF it is happening NOW.
Thats like looking at a snap of your holiday last summer... in that swank resort... that left you soaking wet... because it was a WASH OUT
AND you getting up right NOW and DRYING yourself with a towel...
THAT is STRANGE... VERY very strange
YET why do we do it?
UNFORTUNATELY most people THEN misinterpret what it MEANS to LIVE in the NOW.
They will tell you that you should throw out all your massive action plans, all your wonderful inspiring visions AND JUST EXPERIENCE the NOW... when it doesn't mean that at all.
It just means you are SIMPLY NOT to REACT as if those images of the past (and the future) are now.
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